Visitors since 22 JUN 2005

Hi!  My name is Dave.  My grandchildren call me "Grandpa".  I'd like it if you would call me that too.  I've created these pages on crisis, or really, unplanned pregnancies because I know that there are a lot of young women who are in this situation and are hurting very deeply.  So, please consider this as a series of heart-to-heart talks designed to help you to make some very important decisions in your life right now.

If I've caught your attention and you are still reading this, chances are that at this very moment you are greatly concerned about pregnancies.  Maybe yours?  Are you pregnant?  Do you think you might be pregnant?  If you are, you have my heartiest congratulations.  What?  Are the circumstances for you to be pregnant right now just all wrong?  I'm terribly sorry.  Is your head filled with any thoughts like these?

• My parents will kill me!
• My husband (boyfriend, lover, fiance, whomever) is such a jerk.  I can't stand the thought of having his baby!
• We're broke!  We just can't afford to have another baby!
• If I'm pregnant, my (career, education, fill in the blank) plans are ruined!
• I was raped and this baby will remind me of that nightmare forever!

These thoughts and probably many other equally unpleasant ones may be swimming about your head at the very thought of being pregnant.  If so, you're not alone; the tragedy of an unplanned pregnancy happens to millions of women worldwide each year.

If you take just a second to consider, I'm sure that you would agree with me that under the right circumstances, a woman becoming pregnant is a delightful sign of a beautiful gift from God; of the miracle of life and our participation in God's plan to fill heaven with saints.  Unfortunately, outside the right circumstances, a woman who finds herself pregnant sees this as a heartbreaking catastrophe.

Any woman who finds herself undergoing this "catastrophe" can find her mind filled with thoughts and pressures to find ways to escape or to take "the easy way out".  She may even have thoughts of removing the budding life within her by having an abortion, by having the baby forcibly removed from her womb.  These thoughts might even be entering your mind, my dear reader.

If you'll permit me to use a simile, a woman in this position is very much like the deer which has wandered out of the forest glade into the marshland and gotten trapped in quicksand.  Forgetting that she has wandered away from the peaceful confines of where her nature has placed her, she panics at the sinking feeling of falling into the quicksand.  Thrashing her legs violently in a vain attempt to find solid footing, she makes the problem worse - as gravity pulls her more deeply into the mire, the suction created by her panicked motions pulls her more quickly down into the muck.

This is the point that you're probably at if you've just found out or that you suspect that you are pregnant.  On her own, the deer's predicament will only worsen until, exhausted, she drowns in the quicksand.  What she really needs to do is STOP!  Take a deep cleansing breath!  and think! 

That is  what I am asking you to do.

Somehow, God put you here on this page, at this point in time, and in your predicament.  Please let God talk to you through these pages to STOP! Breathe deeply! and THINK!  We are here to help you to decide what to do and I pray that you will let God take you by the hand (antlers, if you will) and give you the grace to discover the best decision for you to make to get out of the quicksand of this unplanned pregnancy.  What you will discover, I am sure, is that what is in your own personal best interest, from every angle, be it moral, medical, emotional, physical,  will also be in the personal best interest of the little life inside of you - your baby.

As a little aside, I think it's a bit funny that God, in His infinite wisdom, gives us natural, as well as supernatural reasons, to obey His laws.  What we will do is to try to give you ALL of the facts that bear on the decision that you alone must make in order to deal with your current situation.

If I've kept your interest so far, I'd like to suggest that the first thing for you to do is to confirm that you are pregnant - that you are indeed going to have a baby.  You can obtain a FREE pregnancy test at any one of the pregnancy centers throughout the country.  Here is a link to Pregnancy Centers Online:

Pregnant? Think you might be?

Locate a Pregnancy Center near you.

which is a database of centers which will give you the address of the closest center to where you live.  Of course, you're free to go to any center you so choose.  Regardless of where you go, you will find caring people who will give you a free test.  When you go, they will want to know the first day of your last menstrual period and you need to bring a photo ID.  Lawyer's note:  Only a licensed medical facility can determine with 100% assurance that you are or are not pregnant.  The test the centers have is similar to the ones you might use at home except -THEY'RE FREE!!!!!

If you've visited the pregnancy center and now know that you are pregnant, let's proceed to Reasons to Choose Life if you still are considering aborting your baby or if you're still just confused.  On the other hand, if you've decided to carry your baby to term, let's learn a little bit about how your baby will be developing within your body by going to Fetal Development.  God bless!